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About Change
People don't want to be changed. They don't want to be told that they need to change. Do you ever find yourself struggling in those areas? Thank you for your honesty. If there is a struggle, that means there is a battle for truth. If you're not battling, you've already lost. Truth has been lost and deceit has won.
We must come to a place where we are willing to unclothe our soul, ultimately, completely. And it's the hardest battle there is. It's doable. You can do it. Anyone can do it if they want to badly enough. It's doable. It is just that not all people really want it. Not all people are willing to be taught. People come to me all the time, years, I'm talking about decades of seeking success and people will come to me and say to me, "Please mentor me. Help me know how to trade the markets so that I can be profitable. Please mentor me." And in the past I would often say, "Okay. I'll teach what I know, that's all I can give."
But you know what I learned? I learned that people don't want to change. People don't want to be told that they have to change. People resent being corrected. Do you know anyone like that? It's understandable, right? It's not easy to be corrected. Yet experience shows that life as a trader is a life of correction. So whereas you may know people that don't want to be corrected, the fact is, if you are going to trade successfully you are going to have to learn how to receive correction. It's really the hardest part, what I'm giving you right now. It's the hardest part. Everyone wants to think that they are lovable just the way they are, and maybe they are lovable just the way they are but that's not going to necessarily help the real deep things that hide in your soul that will destroy true success. We can't like ourselves too much. Do you understand what I am saying? You know what to do, now do it! That’s a correction, by the way.
What will be your response? Will you turn and walk away?
If a person is rich in their self-love, do not like correction, loves trading, loves markets, and maybe have a great intensity – in the eyes of other traders, that person may be highly prized, but what is hidden deep in the recesses of the heart is “I love who I am, what I am, what I want. I don't like to be corrected. I don't like to be challenged, to be changed. I don't like those kinds of messages.”
How many of you know what that feels like? But the fact of the matter is if you really want success you have to come back to the center and the center has to be changed from pride to humility. When that happens, things inside of you will change. Maybe even some of the old things that are so deep you never thought they could be changed.
If you are not willing to be corrected, if you're not willing to take off the old, how can you put on the new? How can you clothe yourself with the necessary attitude, if you're not willing to change? If you're one of those traders that always has to be right and no one can question you on it no matter how badly it's needed, you'll never have success, not ever.
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